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9 Warning Signs You Are In A Toxic Relationship

Hi guys. Today on relationship matters, we’ll be taking a look at the 9 signs that shows that you are in a toxic relationship.

Before taking a dive into this topic, it will be wise of us to understand the meaning of a toxic relationship so that we can flow along.

What is a toxic relationship?

According to Thomas L. Cory, PhD. He defined a toxic relationship as a relationship characterized by behaviours on the part of the toxic partner that are emotionally, and not frequently, physically damaging to their partner.

We all know that each relationship has its ups and downs. However, the downs in the relationship obviously outweigh the ups, there is a very high possibility that the relationship is a toxic one.

Mind you, the relationship might be toxic for only one party. If that party happens to be you, then you can say you are in a toxic relationship. This might not necessarily be the case for the other person.

The goal of every relationship it’s for it to be healthy, be it a long term relationship or a short term relationship. When you are not in a healthy relationship, it’s advisable you end it before it starts turning into a very toxic relationship.

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What are the signs exhibited that shows that you are in a toxic relationship?

Not all toxic relationship can be detected easily. There are signs you will have to check out for to know if a relationship is a toxic one for you. At this point, you need to put sentiment and love aside to get the hell out of such a relationship. Some of these signs are.

1. Constant fighting

Fighting is part of any form of relationship and even friendship. However, when it becomes the order of the day, there is something wrong somewhere.

We get into a relationship to love the other party, for fun, for companionship etc. Fighting is not supposed to be regular in your day to day activities in a relationship.

It’s unhealthy for people in a relationship to always fight especially over trivial things and it’s definitely a sign of toxicity.

This is a big sign that if the relationship continues, the fighting will start getting worse. It’s better you call it quit if you don’t want to remain in a toxic relationship.

2. No fighting

That moment where you are like, what do you expect us to do (lol). Anyways, fighting is part of any form of relationship. Reasons being that no 2 people can completely agree on everything.

Absence of any form of argument, quarrel and fight etc. means that someone is definitely bottling his/her emotion. It might be that he/he has a good tolerance level.

But, what do you think will happen when your partner tolerance limit is exceeded? You won’t love the outcome. It can lead to something more dangerous than a mere fight.

When it seems that you guys are at peace all the time, it might just be a sign of a toxic relationship. On the other hand, it may be nothing at all.

3. It’s halting your personal progress

We all want to see progress in whatever we set aside to do. Being in a relationship is not meant to be a stumbling block but a catalyst to progress in life.

It’s understandable that when you are in a relationship, you should focus on your partner. That doesn’t mean you should start failing/regressing in whatever you do.

Everybody has dreams they want to achieve. When you are chasing those dreams, anything that is preventing you or holding you back becomes toxic.

An example is in high schools and colleges. Your relationship should never affect your performance in any way negative; else it is a toxic relationship.

4. You’re unhappy

This is a very obvious sign. Anything not bringing joy and happiness into your life is definitely not good for you.

Having said that, even when it comes to your relationship, your happiness should not be compromised. Follow these article to see the 7 vital things you should never compromise in a relationship.

No matter what, your happiness should always come first. There’s nobody that can tell you if you are happy or not except yourself.

Any relationship that makes you unhappy is definitely toxic no matter how you choose to look at it.

5. Lack of support

Your partner no longer deems it fit to support you as much as he can. This leaves you in a relationship while in reality, you are single.

In a healthy relationship, there is a mutual desire to see each other succeed in all areas of life. But when the relationship gets toxic, every achievement becomes a competition.

6. Toxic communication

There will be no positives to draw from communication with your partner anymore. Most of your conversations are filled with sarcasm, criticism, hostility etc.

To the extent, you start avoiding conversing with your partner.

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7. All the work, love, compromise comes from you

It takes two people putting in effort for a relationship to work. Nobody can hold a relationship together when they are the only one doing the work.

It’s lonely and it’s exhausting. At this point, the toxicity of the relationship can start weighing you down emotionally, physically and mentally.

Let go of the fantasy that you can make things work if you try hard enough, work hard enough, say enough, do enough. Stop, just stop. You’re enough. You always have been.

8. Nothing gets resolved

Every relationship has its ups and downs. However, in a toxic relationship, most things never work out because every conflict ends in a heated argument.

There is no trust that the other person will have the capacity to deal with the issue in a way that is safe and preserves the connection.

When this happens, needs gets buried, and in a relationship, unmet needs will always feed resentment.

9. Dating a narcissists

Yeah, you heard that right. Being in a relationship with a narcissist is toxic in itself. Unless you are one that tolerates bullshits from people, this relationship will be demeaning to you.

They have a lot of attributes and say a lot of things that can be a turn off in a relationship. Follow these articles to see how being in a relationship with a narcissist is toxic.

The characteristics of a narcissists

Common things that narcissists say

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