8 Ways To Deal With Hot-Tempered Partner Or Friend
Anger is a natural healthy emotion, and so it is normal to get upset. It is an emotion that strikes everyone from time to time. But sometimes it becomes an issue of concern when people can’t control or manage their temper, they seemingly lose their temper over small problems and they tend to hurt the people around them.
Whether it’s your love interest, friend, relative that has a hot temper, you might feel responsible for calming them down. In other cases, you might be the one that triggers their rage. You are having a hard time putting up with them, below are eight strategies to help you cope with a hot-tempered person and avoid complicated situations.
How to deal with hot-tempered partner or friend
1. Understand what triggers their hot temper
When you’re living with a short temper, under the same roof It could be a partner, a friend, a sibling, or any relative, it is important to recognize what their triggers points are and address the issue through an open and healthy discussion, a very peaceful one. No judgments or blames should be directed at anyone.
Just try to find out what irks them and remember it is for your own benefit.
2. Give them space
Two wrongs can’t make a right. If two people are talking at the same time, then neither is listening.
The fact is when they start lashing out give them space. You could step out for a bit till they cool down, things might get ugly if you decide to react. That’s why you need to get your anger management checked before trying to calm an angry partner, friend or family_ you guys might just go at each other.
When they let it all out while you stay quiet and take it in, it gives them a sense of reasoning and they realize their overreaction, their mistakes, they might come to apologize on their own.
3. Keep your attitude in check
Like I mentioned before now, you can’t help others if you have a problem on your own. You can’t quench fire with fire.
Many a time people fail to realize that their attitude might be part of the reason why their hot-tempered partner, sibling, or a friend gets out of control so easily. You’re just not conscious of how you react to certain situations. You have to learn to manage your emotions_ it’s not that easy but if you don’t, your issues will remain unresolved and problems will keep on piling up.
You could argue peacefully. Get your point across without causing more trouble, and beware your partner’s temper can be triggered as well as yours so it’s best to avoid them at all cost. Watch your motives and ensure you’ve not been overly defensive or trying to brew a fight.
4. Position yourself as an ally
People get angry when they feel something of theirs that’s really valuable is in danger, such as resources, residence, relationships, and so on. You need to forge trust and present yourself as a non-threat when facing an angry person. Show interest in whatever they have to say, hear their plights. Ask them questions about their when possible and be a very active listener. Don’t make jokes about it even when it’s tempting, don’t insult them but you use humor when appropriate.
5. Be patience
Patience is not as easy as it sounds. It requires self-sacrifice. Patience is not the ability to wait but keeping a good attitude while waiting. Remember this, an adult with short fuses is compared to a child having a tantrum.
You are a human being too, you’re allowed to lose your cool, sometimes. But not when someone is already raging with anger. If you react in that same manner, the situation is likely to worsen. So be patient with them. No one said it’s easy but it’s better than creating a scene all the time. Be calm and give them time to come back to their senses.
6. Consider the possibility of depression
There could a reason why they’re always irritated and angry. A short temper can be a sign of depression. With this in mind, you should be on the lookout for other symptoms of depression, like the feeling of unhappiness or unworthiness, sleeping problems, loss of interest in pleasure, and constant fatigue. If depression seems likely, then tell your friend, or partner to seek the aid of a mental expert. Act with urgency. Depression can lead to self-harm or worse, suicide.
7. Encourage them to change
If someone is aware they have a bad temper. You support them in getting over the habit. You can encourage their good behavior and ask them to monitor it themselves. They can also pick up some technique such as meditation, a little workout session_ it could also be pushing them to do something they love, like music, drawing, dancing, anything at all of their interest.
If needed you could get an expert who may be able to better guide you. Or if needed get help for them.
8. Don’t tolerate abuse
Anger can lead a person to hurt those around them. There’s as much as a person can take. They could verbally, physically, emotionally hurt those around them without knowing. You need to get help from such a person, the police, or a psychiatrist.
If you’re not sure it’s abuse taking place, you should consult a counselor or close friend (a good one) and express your concerns to them. If you let yourself suffer in the hands of a hot-tempered person you might start having some issues on your own.
Conclusion
Coping with a hot-tempered partner, friend or relative is not very easy. You just have to make sure you have bonafide anger management skills. You need self-control to get through it.
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