How to deal With oppositions is something one should be conversant with. Oppositions are actions or opinions that show that you disagree with or disapprove of someone or something. Oppositions are what one will always experience as one seek to be the best in whatever they do.
Success is not measured by what you can accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds -Orison Swett Marden
However, oppositions are difficult to avoid it’s a necessity wherever improvement is needed. Opposition can be a very big source of motivation and also reveals your strengths and weaknesses. Not all oppositions are completely wrong, so it is better not to completely avoid it but get something positive out of every opposition.
Just as we develop our physical muscles through overcoming opposition -such as lifting weights, we develop our character muscles by overcoming challenges and adversity (Stephen Covey)
Nelson Mandela was the former president of South Africa just like other past presidents of other countries. He is regarded as the greatest because of his challenges and oppositions that he went through.
Greatness is not measured by what a man or woman accomplishes, but by the opposition, he or she has overcome to reach his goals (Dorothy Height)
Knowing fully well that it is difficult to avoid opposition, all we need to do is to know how to deal with it. Before the end of this article, you will be exposed the different approaches to dealing with opposition.
Don’t run from oppositions, it can be dealt with.
6 WAYS TO DEAL WITH OPPOSITIONS
1. Have a positive attitude towards opposition
It is quite a difficult task to see something positive about oppositions because people are always tempted to tag anyone that stands as an opposition to an enemy. But you would not be surprised to know that oppositions always come with criticism which is sometimes true.
What is positive about oppositions is the truth that sometimes you don’t get from friends
opposition is true friendship (William Blake)
The truth from criticism is usually something that you aren’t doing right that you didn’t know but has been brought to light and can now be dealt with. What is difficult to get from the opposition is that they never offer a solution to the flaws they have revealed. That’s why most critics are not considered to be your friend.
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Nicki Minaj said
People face difficulties no matter who you are, I faced difficulties with a lot of things. I face opposition every day, but I didn’t kill myself and now, thank God, I’m here
You may not like Nicki but those words are true, every one of us is faced with opposition in one way or the other. All you can do is deal with it.
2. Be joyful in opposition or trial
Real men laugh at opposition; real men smile when enemies appear (Marcus Garvey).
You can’t afford to be sad whenever opposition hits you. If oppositions are difficult to avoid, then you can’t just stay unhappy every day because of something difficult to avoid.
Being joyful everyday no matter the challenges around shows that you are in control. You must learn to make sure people have no control whatsoever, over your mood.
if you walk in joy, happiness is close behind (Todd stocker)
see also: 5 spicy ingredients of happiness
One important thing to note about being joyful is not to let your joy be set in some distant goal but while you are still in the process of achieving your goal.
You don’t ignore opposition or difficulties to be joyful but you embrace them in other to reach the next stage of joy.
Being joyful shows that you are dealing with the situation including oppositions and the reverse will be the case if you stay sad.
You can’t get around pain and opposition, but you can try to be joyful in the trial, and thank yourself for the trial, and thank God for the strength to get through it (Mary J. Budge).
3. Arm yourself against difficult questions and arguments
There isn’t a particular way to handling difficult question, you may not always want to execute the walk-away alternative amid difficult questions or arguments. Although, we will still establish the fact that you don’t have to reply to every statement. But sometimes, you find it difficult to walk away because you don’t want people to see you as someone who cannot defend his/her self even in words.
So always study and strive to be good in what you are doing so that any question related to what you are involved in, can get a wise reply wisely. However, saying “I don’t know” sometimes is not a wrong answer.
Keep studying, keep improving in yourself. Christiano Ronaldo has a lot of critics but he usually shut them up by simply scoring more goals because he is still working hard (I’m not a fan anyway, I’m Messi’s)
4. Determination and courage
Strong people are made by opposition like kites that go up against the wind (Frank Harris)
Being determined and courageous will make you not change your course of action whenever you sense opposition. You may have the intention to be a politician (a good politician!) but because of fear of opposition you want to relent, and then denying your country great leadership that she deserves.
Don’t try to attract unnecessary opposition, but when it comes, set your minds on your goal and don’t relent no matter the gravity of the opposition you will face. Remember when you quit the opposition have won.
5. Be sincere
you are only pretentious if you are not sincere (John Hodgman)
When you are not sincere then you are pretending and pretence is being somebody or something that you are not. That’s is what oppositions use against a lot of persons especially celebrities.
There is the you that exist in your mind and another that is seen by others. When both are always in agreement, then you will be able to deal with your opposition at any point in time. knowing full well that you are not changing constantly like a chameleon.
You have no idea of the length people can go to know something that will tarnish your image. However, that will only happen when you have some element of insincerity hidden in your daily living.
Be sincere so that you can defend yourself with confidence amid oppositions.
6. Not all statement deserves a reply
No amount of reply or response will stop opposition but all you are to do is use their words as directions to developing more on yourself.
Trying not to reply to every statement will save your time and it shows you are not paying attention to them. And the best reply oppositions deserve is for you to come back bigger and better.
Final thoughts on dealing with oppositions
Remember, tag no one as an enemy it is a simple life, so exhibit a pretty lifestyle. After reading this article I know oppositions are no longer a big mountain to climb. You don’t have to climb every mountain you face, you can go around. You do not need to memorize anything from the article for you to apply them. The combination of that which works for you is unique to you. Our goal is to make the mountain plain, and then figuring out how to put it to you.
It’s a simple Life
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Ifedayo says
Another blockbuster from Dolapo.
The 4th point reminds me of Tai Solarin’s New year message one time – ‘May your road be rough this year’ and he told his audience to say ‘same to you’, if they were not sure how to respond. He explained that he wasn’t cursing them but that there was no notable accomplishment that ever came from comfort zone.
Prettylifestylez says
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