There is a sense of urgency in the phrase “take immediate control of your life”. The problem is… No one is coming to save you. This life of yours is 100% your responsibility. I mean taking immediate control of your life is a responsibility that you cannot transfer to somebody else.
“You are in control of your life. Don’t ever forget that. You are what you are because of the conscious and subconscious choices you have made.” (Barbara Hall)
Although, we transfer some responsibilities to other people, Here’s the main issue with that…The consequences/results of their actions are still yours for you to bear. Don’t make the mistake of allowing your life to be controlled by somebody else. No matter how close you are, or how great is the respect you have for anyone it does not worth it.
And this is where people run into trouble…
Most at times, the people controlling others’ lives are their parents, friends or loved ones and so they find it difficult to reject, resist or refuse. Here’s the big secret…whatever is controlling your life, you gave it the power and authority. So, everything still boils down to you.
They can quit, or fail but you can’t quit because it’s still your life, but if you fail the experience is yours to hold so that you wouldn’t fail in the same way again.
Sometimes, you fail because you take instructions from people about your life. We even go as far as to neglecting what brings us joy just to please others.
Living your life without being in control is liken to someone who is living in darkness. And the problem is that those times are likely wasting.
Stick with me here, because easy tips to know in order for you to take immediate control of your life will be unveiled in a simplified way…. remember it’s a pretty life
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10 SIMPLE WAYS TO TAKE IMMEDIATE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE
1. TAKE IMMEDIATE CONTROL BY KNOWING YOUR VALUES AND LIVING BY THEM:
“Every time a value is born, existence takes on a new meaning; every time one dies, some part of that meaning passes away.” (Joseph Wood Krutch)
To value something means to place importance upon it; anything that you hold dear can be called a “value.” Your life values are those things that are important to you in life. Values is what guides every of our decision.
It’s not just to have values, but is it clear enough? When you know what is important to you making a decision is quite simple.
There’s just one problem… Many people know what they want to have, but have no idea of who they want to be.
“Getting “things” simply will not fulfill you. Only living and doing what you believe is “the right thing” will give you that sense of inner strength that we all deserve” (Anthony Robbins).
There is this immense joy of fulfillment when you live by your values. And at that point, you’re in control of your life. So, there is also immense emotional pain when you don’t live by your values.
Here’s the point…know your values, make sure it is clear enough, and allow your decisions to be influenced by them. You can then be sure you are on the right path to take immediate control of your life.
2. KNOW THAT ITS YOUR DECISION:
“Everything that happens in your life—both what you’re thrilled with and what you’re challenged by began with a decision.” (Anthony Robbins)
In life, it is either you decide your life or circumstances and people will do it for you. Not making conscious effort towards your life means you have decided to go by whatever life offers. Today is a product of yesterday. Don’t just let life happen to you, make things happen. Something must surely happen around you or to you. It is left for you to decide whether to give up or make a risky decision that will change your life.
“If you don’t make decisions about how you’re going to live, then you’ve already made a decision, haven’t you? You’re making a decision to be directed by the environment instead of shaping your own destiny.” (Anthony Robbins)
Now, this is important…life does not always put before you completely good and bad options to choose from. Here’s what I mean, you are not always faced with two options that are completely friendly or not friendly. There is always something risky about any decision you are to take (especially important ones).
For you to take immediate control of your life, you need to learn to make decisions for yourself, so that you’ll be aware of the course your life is taking.
3. TAKE IMMEDIATE CONTROL BY STRIVING FOR INDEPENDENCE:
“Your life will fly by, so make sure you’re the pilot.” (Rob Liano)
Life is like a moving train, you cannot stop it from moving. You can’t prevent life from happening, you just have to ensure that you are in command.
“to find yourself think for yourself” (Socrate)
Being independent here means you can think original thoughts, make decisions for yourself and just being yourself in general. You need to feel confident handling things on your own.
If there’s something you want to control is your time. To control your time, you have to first deal with things that want to steal your time. Dealing with them means you have to control them too. Take an example from Manoj Arora’s statement.
“Money should not dictate how I live my life. I must take charge and become the master of money so that I decide what I want to do with my time.” (Manoj Arora)
4. CREATE GOAL AND STAY FOCUS:
“What you stay focused on will grow.” (Roy T. Bennett)
Goals are like your destination when you embark on a journey. If you don’t create goals you can end up anywhere and you’ll think you are there.
If you don’t make a conscious effort to create goals for yourself, life will present its own. You’ll be controlled by people and circumstances because you have no clue about where you are going.
You can easily overcome whatever contradicts your goal because you know them (your goal), no matter the present pleasure that it presents.
What is tricky about having goals is that there is no human being living without goals. The human mind will always set goals for itself because you haven’t made a conscious effort to create one for yourself. Anthony Robbins said “Most people’s goals are to “pay their lousy bills,” to get by, to survive, to make it through the day—in short, they are caught up in the trap of making a living rather than designing a life.”
To take immediate control of your life you need to know to be aware of who you are presently and who you want to be (your Goal) in the future.
see also: 12 strong reasons why people don’t set goals
5. TAKE IMMEDIATE CONTROL BY FIRST CONTROLLING YOUR THOUGHTS:
“As he thinketh in his heart, so is he.” —PROVERBS 23:7
Every action and decisions including stealing are products of the mind. To control your life, you have to first control your thoughts. To control your thought is not to stop things from happening around you, of course, you can’t stop that. All you can do is to change your point of view.
“The only thing you sometimes have control over is perspective. You don’t have control over your situation. But you have a choice about how you view it.” (Chris Pine)
Instead of wasting time pondering on things that you cannot change. think of what you want and where you are going. Above all, think about your goals. The very act of thinking about your goals makes you positive and purposeful again.
So, here’s my point? The only limit to what you can have in your life is the size of your imagination and the level of your commitment to making it real.
6. CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS:
The first step to controlling your emotions is to first get control over negative emotions and replace them with positive ones. When your negative emotions of fear, self-pity, envy, jealousy, feelings of inferiority, and ultimately anger stop, the positive emotions of love, peace, joy and enthusiasm flow in to replace them, and your whole life changes for the better.
Now, this is important… Being angry with someone is allowing him/her control your emotions and to a large extent the quality of your life at that instant.
“How do I control my emotions? How do I stop getting angry so often, or how do I stop being sad? And I think there’s a really important distinction to understand is that you can’t completely control your emotions. What you control is your reaction to your own emotions. And a lot of people don’t ever make that separation for what goes on with them.” (Mark Manson)
Negative emotions make your hostile, irritable and unpleasant; I know you don’t like that. Positive emotions make you feel powerful and confident.
There are always situations or circumstances that will always want to bring out negative emotions. But when you can control how you react; it shows you are in control of your life. Take responsibility for your emotions and don’t try to justify yourself on why you should be angry.
7. ACCEPT YOURSELF:
“Becoming a great leader doesn’t mean being perfect. it means living with your imperfections.” (Lolly Daskal)
You already know you are not perfect, so whatever people say about you shouldn’t matter more. Don’t allow people to control you because of something you haven’t done yet. Life is a process and there is no place called there.
See yourself as the primary creative force in your own life. You are where you are and what you are because of your own choices and decisions.
What you should be looking for is the part of your life that needs urgent improvement.
8. MOTIVATE YOURSELF-REDUCE SELF DOUBT:
Personal motivation is of great importance if you don’t want to stay discouraged all the time. It is good to surround yourself with people that encourage you, but that doesn’t exceed the importance of encouraging yourself.
Your goals should be your motivation.
“GIANT GOALS PRODUCE GIANT MOTIVATION” (Anthony Robbins)
It is not just enough to just have goals but to let your goals inspire you. “Many people in life know what they should do, but they never do it. The reason is that they’re lacking the drive that only a compelling future can provide” (Anthony Robbins).
Self-motivation is more original and reliable, but you have to set more realistic and compelling goals as your inspiration.
9. FIND JOY ON THE WAY:
We often make the mistake of looking for a happy ending only after we have achieved our goals. Always strive to find joy on the way to achieving your set goals. Remember you are in control of your life.
Here is the catch; being happy is much more important than any goals you are aiming to achieve. Having the mindset to always find joy no matter the state of things helps you to control your negative emotions. And your approach to things will be a positive one. Of course, it means you are not controlled by your environment no matter what it presents.
10. DON’T LIVE IN THE PAST BY CASTING BLAMES:
Anytime you blame others or make excuses you give your power away. You feel weakened and diminished. You feel negative and angry inside.
From this point on refuse to blame others. The present is all you have to yourself don’t ruin it with past events but use it to get a good future.
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Great points here.
Point number 5 very key. It all happens in the mind.
Keep it up Dolapo.
exactly