10 Real Signs and symptoms of a failing relationship
Being in a relationship is a part of our life and all relationships are bound to experience ups and downs. A relationship is like a job, you have to work hard to get in it and you have to work harder to stay in it. They are times when you and your partner are so attached to each other. It’s like you can almost read each other’s minds. Well, there are other challenging periods when you seem to be miles apart. It also happens in the healthiest relationship.
But if there are more downs than ups it means a relationship is failing and there are signs that come with it. Like arguing, calling each other names, and more. Well if such a relationship is rushing to its end, getting unhealthy, there are subtler signs that come with it. You can easily miss it but they’re very important to recognize to save your relationship.
Know that some relationships are just too toxic, so they are not worth keeping. But if your partner is worth keeping, be rest assured there is something you can do. First, you have to discern those signs consummating the strength of your relationship.
Below are ten signs you can use to reevaluate where things went wrong, so you can work things out together.
10 Real Signs and symptoms of a failing relationship
1. You Stopped Arguing
You stopped arguing, or you never argue or you let each other get away with everything might sound like a perfect relationship. Well it’s not, it is in fact a subtler sign as I like to call it, that your relationship is failing. Not arguing or ever expressing yourself is simply a lack of communication. For any relationship to last you both need to be able to argue and speak your mind.
Communication is the heart of any healthy relationship. As a matter of fact, you can’t understand each other. And since you hold back so much the feeling of resentment arises. Resentment grows when someone feels unheard or dismissed. All these are a result of a lack of communication.
It is not the distance that keeps people apart, it is a lack of communication. Sometimes couples have to argue not to prove whose right or wrong, but to be reminded their love is worth fighting for.
2. You’re Always Arguing
Arguing is good. But when the conversation starts at an intense level, with anger from the very first word uttered, that is cause for concern.If it isn’t like it used to be when the conversations you have were about your concerns or your conflict in a very peaceable way. You should know there is an underlying contempt brewing in your heart that has not been identified, spoken, and dealt with.
This shows disrespect. You start disagreeing disrespectfully. Mutual respect is a cornerstone of all successful relationships. Suddenly you and your partner never give that to each other. Rather you’re fighting over everything, no matter how small.
3. You disregard each other in little ways
For a relationship to last, the two people involved have to consider each other. You should notice if either you or your partner is living a solo life. You no longer eat together, go to movies, or do even the minuscule things together. They’ve stopped doing things for you. And you’ve stopped doing things for them.
Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike. You’re either in it together or you’re not in it at all.
4. You haven’t had sex in ages
Sexual activity reduces as a long-term relationship goes on. But do take note, has there ever been a time when you think of the last time you had sex and your answer is it’s being a while… You can’t even remember you and your partner enjoying intimacy. The number one symptom of a failing relationship is the disappearance of sex. One’s communication falters, sex wains Walfish.
Sexual happiness is an important part of a great relationship.
5. You have sex all the time
Sex can be a wonderful thing you know, but sometimes you have to take some step back from it. You shouldn’t lose yourself in a relationship.
If the only thing you two do for fun is having sex then think twice. Yes, sex is great but when there is little to no emotional connection and not much quality, then that relationship is on the failing side. Sex is a part of a good relationship. Don’t think just because you’re constantly in bed your relationship is doing fine.
6. There’s No Trust
In a relationship, trust is as important as love, in fact, trust enhances love.
One single betrayal and an act perceived as betrayal can wipe a lifetime of trust. If trust is absent? Then that relationship can’t last. Trust in a relationship is like gas to a car. If absent you can stay in it but you can’t get it going.
Something went wrong somewhere, you’re already playing detective. You should ask why? Can’t the breach be mended?
7. You’re thinking of cheating or have already started cheating
This is one major sign you should take note of. I mean daydreaming about someone else, fantasizing_ and even having physical affair aside your relationship can break a strong couple apart. If you can’t help it then you’re not ready to be committed.
A mistake happens accidentally but cheating and lying are not accidents, they are choices. You thought of it means you’re capable of doing it.
8. You’re no longer honest with each other
Secret and lies kill a relationship that’s a fact for sure. Most couples are dishonest because they want to be perfect. You lie to save a relationship. There’s no part of the world that ever worked. If your relationship is built on lies then it can never last.
It’s better to hurt someone with the truth than comfort them with a lie.
9. You’re Distancing From Each Other
If one or both partners are always seeking distractions, making efforts to avoid any form of connection or the bond you share has waned. You or your partner spending more time at work, hanging out with friends but never around each other. You even exclude each other from future plans without noticing it.
It might be you’re both avoiding the problems in your relationship (which is not good), or you both know it’s not working (that’s not good either).
In a relationship, jealousy is needed in the right amount, not too much, and the less the better. A little jealousy is indeed healthy in a relationship, it’s always nice to know someone is afraid to lose you. But if you and your partner are extremely jealous types then that’s going to take a toll on your relationship and may even bring things that an end.
So do you or your partner get jealous over every little thing? Does either of you have a problem sharing your time and attention with others? Those are signs of an insecure person.
Jealousy is a strong emotion that can break any relationship.
Also, no jealousy in a relationship is just as bad. It means you two don’t care enough to worry about each other. Jealousy is cute but too much of it is a big problem.
Think about the relationship that is important in your life. Check if they have any of the above qualities (signs and symptoms). If so, you need to act fast. It may mean you two should be focusing on growing together in healthier ways, having more organized communication, and make some changes together. Get help if you need to get things done right. Or it might be you will need to walk away from the relationship.
But with the right intervention, commitment, and cooperation, your failing relationship can be strengthened from all angles.