What if it really is just not going to work out? How can you tell if he’s just not that into you and whether or not you’re better off without him? We all want someone who will love us and want to be with us, but sometimes we realize that person just doesn’t exist. Here are seven signs he’s not into you and some advice on how to handle it when they come up in your relationship.
The I Have A Girlfriend Lie
There are several other things a man might say when he’s not into you, but one of them is almost guaranteed to come up at some point. I have a girlfriend. It could be that she exists, and he just wants you to know he has a safety net, or it could be that he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. Either way, it doesn’t matter.
The Disappearing Act
Have you ever been in a situation where you think things are going great and then poof! It’s gone. All of a sudden, there’s nothing but radio silence from your crush, who hasn’t returned any of your calls or texts. Chances are good that he might not be into you at all. This is one of those situations where it’s important to keep your cool and not get upset over a complete stranger.
The One-Word Texts
If you’ve heard of the talk, you might be familiar with how difficult it can be for a man to declare his feelings. But that doesn’t mean he has nothing to say. If he sends curt or one-word texts (e.g., Great or Okay), it could mean that you two need to have a deeper conversation about where things stand—and how he really feels about you as a person and not just a partner.
The Emptiness of His Love Language
Learn how your partner’s love language might affect how you’re feeling and what you need. If you feel unloved, it may not be that he isn’t showing love—it could be that he’s speaking a different language, and you just haven’t learned it yet. Here are some ideas of what these different languages are and why they matter.
The Silent Treatment
When he ignores your texts, doesn’t meet up with you after you’ve made plans, and is not as responsive as he usually is. This could be a sign that he wants nothing more than to be friends, or it could mean that he’s really not interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with you at all.
One of his main tactics for keeping you in check is called emotional withholding. Emotional withholding means he’ll often act distant, moody, and passive-aggressive to keep you from getting close—he doesn’t want you getting any ideas about moving forward with a relationship. If he’s prone to emotional withholding, it will be especially hard to tell whether or not he’s into you. For more signs that he might be emotionally withholding see my previous post on toxic relationships.
No Public Displays of Affection
If he hasn’t shown any affection towards you in front of his friends, chances are, he’s not into you. There may be times when you think that he might just need some time for himself; but what about those moments when you two were alone and still nothing happened? Don’t push it. Let go. What could be worse than spending your time with someone who doesn’t want to spend it with you?