Being in a relationship is one of the best experiences you can ever have, and jealousy can be one of the worst emotions you can feel when you’re in one. It’s normal to have doubts from time to time when you’re with your significant other. However, allowing these doubts to dictate your behaviour and attitude will only lead to resentment, regret and an unhealthy relationship overall. This article will teach you how to prevent jealousy from seeping into your relationship and destroy it from the inside out.
All relationships are vulnerable when it comes to jealousy. In some cases, it’s more of an issue than others, but it can rear its ugly head at any time. No matter what type of relationship you’re in – whether you’ve been together for a few months or many years – your partner will likely do things that make you feel insecure and insecure people tend to get paranoid about their partners and their interactions with other people.
This makes sense, as jealousy serves a protective function by ensuring we don’t lose those we love, but only if it’s based on rational concerns; otherwise, it can push your partner further from you if they view your suspicions as unwarranted. Here are some tips on how not to be jealous in a relationship
Make it Clear what you like and don’t like
Your partner won’t know what you want if you don’t tell them. When things are going well, it is easy for your significant other to assume that what they are doing is exactly what you desire.
That couldn’t be further from the truth. If you want something specific, make it clear what makes you happy and take note of any signs your partner gives off when it comes to their preferences.
For example, if your partner puts on their favourite shirt whenever they know that you will be coming home soon and/or when they feel extra sexy, don’t miss out on telling them how much these small gestures turn you on!
Understand your partner’s point of view
Studies show that jealousy is often triggered when people feel like their partner isn’t paying them enough attention. If you’re constantly feeling like your partner is ignoring you, it could be that they’ve been so busy with work, school or other important commitments.
However, if you still feel anxious when your partner is around – whether at home or out with friends – take a step back and think about why that might be happening.
Are you actually being neglected? Or are you just feeling insecure for some reason? Whether it’s guilt about spending too much time with friends and family or something else entirely, try to figure out what triggers your jealousy so that you can address it from a place of rational thinking rather than knee-jerk anxiety.
Enjoy the good things together
There’s really no way around it, you’re never going to be able to keep your significant other from ever having friends or family members that you don’t like.
Instead of obsessing over what they do with their time and who they spend it with, work towards enjoying those things together instead. Think about planning double dates at places where both of you can have fun, or organize events where he/she gets time with both sides of your life while also spending time with each other.
It may take some adjustment on your end, but just remember that those people are important parts of his/her life and thinking otherwise is holding them back from growth.
Know when to bring out the green monster
Jealousy isn’t just ugly; it can also drive a wedge between two people. While most people don’t like being on either side of someone else’s green-eyed monster, jealousy can sometimes serve as an indicator that you and your partner are outgrowing each other.
If you feel yourself getting close to that I want what he has territory, it might be time for an open conversation about where your relationship is headed. Bringing up changes in feelings and desires early gives both parties time to reassess their goals and consider how best to move forward together.
Reassess your priorities
Jealousy is natural and normal. It’s when it becomes so severe that it overshadows everything else that you need to worry about your own mental well-being. Relationships are about compromise, trust and mutual respect.
If you begin doubting yourself because of your partner’s new outfit, or because he/she has begun socializing with another friend more often than with you, then it might be time for a reality check. Life is short; don’t waste it on people who don’t make you happy.
Being envious of someone else has no place in any relationship – whether romantic or friendship – and should always be your number one reason for stepping back and reevaluating what matters to you most.
As you can see from these tips, jealousy is an emotion you can’t control. However, there are several things you can do to manage it so that it doesn’t ruin your relationship.
The most important thing is for both partners to understand that feelings of jealousy are expected, and although they can hurt relationships, they aren’t uncommon and often grow out of insecurity or fear that something or someone will come between them.
If those concerns are addressed honestly and compassionately, it’s possible to move past them without too much difficulty.